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CURMUDGEON4
Jan Goldfield
best-selling author
A Practical Guide to Building and Maintaining Your Pond

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What in the hell are they saying?

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Accept things like they are. Don't make waves. Don't draw attention to yourself.
Hush. The teacher/minister/clerk/doctor/dentist wants you to be quiet and not interrupt. Don't ask questions.

I hear that or a version of that all the time. Parents talking to their children, spouses talking to spouses, adult children to elderly parents. People who think they have authority speaking to people they perceive as not having any.

If it were not for resisting what is,
we would never change our lives for the better

In my lifetime we have seen women come from employable only in menial jobs to most any job they wish, albeit only at 77% of what men make. But we are working on that. When I finished undergrad school, an employer could say, "Sorry, we don't hire women for that." And not realize what he was saying. And we could do nothing about it. When I finished grad school things had not changed.That was 1969 and I was finished listening to that drivel

I was finished listening to that drivel .

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When I was an undergrad at Michigan State University women could not wear pants on campus. In Michigan where temps reach below zero in the winter. We had to dress for dinner. We had curfews. I mention that not to assess value to their standards, but to say that men undergrads had no dress rules or curfews. Women could not take technical courses like engineering and I wanted to be a civil engineer. Wasn't gonna happen.

My niece is a chemical engineer and doesn't even think it's unusual. Female doctors and dentists outnumber males doctors and dentists. It only took 30 years.

We fought, we resisted, we sat-in, we marched, we demanded and yes, we complained. We made noise. We were not quiet and did not accept things as they were.

And things changed

I have seen people of color exist as second class citizens, relegated to the back of the bus and not allowed to sit at a Woolworth lunch counter, stay in a motel of their choice or get more that a menial job.
We now have a US president who is a person of color.

We fought, we resisted, we sat-in, we marched, we demanded and yes, we complained. We made noise. We were not quiet and did not accept things as they were.

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It took Harry Truman one signature and the military was integrated. That was 1948. In 1956, it took a landmark decision by the supreme court in Brown v the Board of Education to integrate the schools. Stonewall happened in NYC in 1969. We came out of our respective closets and are demanding equal rights.

We are still seeing conditions in the US that need changing. It's perfectly OK to hate homosexuals and shout it to the sky. You might even be applauded. Civil rights are not granted to 10% or more of our population. Entire churches are built around refusing this right and preaching hatred to their parishioners. And believe it or not, the electorate of the US is VOTING on civil rights for gay people. That may have happened in this country before, but not in my memory.

It's just fine to hate our neighbors to our south. I'm not sure why our neighbors to the north are just fine. Could it be the color of their skin?

We will fight, resist, sit-in, march, demand and yes, complain. We will make noise. Will not be quiet and will not accept things as they are.

And things will change!

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